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Happy Birthday, Daddy! I didn’t buy you a present you can unwrap but this week between your birthday and Father's Day I will be posting some lessons I have learned from you. So stay posted to my posts to see that I did listen and learn from you all these years. Thank you for being a godly humble and wise example for all of us. I love and miss you!
Dad Lesson #1
My Dad taught me that with God all things are possible! When Karlee was in NICU and I couldn't even go in and see her out of fear of getting too attached it was my Dad who sat by her side and sang "You are my Sunshine" to her for hours and prayed that she would breathe on her on. My Dad never doubted that our God wouldn't "take his sunshine away" Thanks to Dad I have the confidence that with God ALL things are possible.
Dad Lesson #2
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Friday, June 10, 2011 at 10:11am
Proverbs 10:19 "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise"
My Dad is a man of few words. I remember when my Dad was an Elder at FCCN, one of the other elders said "Gary doesn't say much in the meetings but everyone there knows when he does speak up it will be worth listening to, wise and godly."
Unfortunately, this is a lesson that I am still learning. I often speak too many words inviting sin into my conversations. I am striving to speak only wise and godly words...maybe you struggle with this too.
Have a great Friday FB!
Dad Lesson #3
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Saturday, June 11, 2011 at 12:30pm
James 1:19-20
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. For man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.
I know this will be hard to believe but I have only experienced my Dad's anger once in my life. I am sure he has been angry many times in life but he does not let his anger consume him or let it show to others. My Dad is not a yeller. He never yelled at Kim or me, that I can only assume he delegated to Mom because she yelled quite well. LOL All Dad had to do was look at us and we were broken. We would start to cry and confess all our wrong doings.
The one time I remember seeing my Dad angry was the day of my high school graduation. For the record, he was not angry at me. Lol He was actually sticking up for me. I learned a lot that day. I learned my dad is human. He has a breaking point and it was reached that day. I learned he loved me enough to get angry about the situation. I learned it is ok to get angry. Also I learned to state your anger and let it go. Dad did not hold on to his anger. Once it was out, he let it go. He did not harbor resentment or harsh feelings with any one involved.
I pray that I can learn to be slow to become angry like my Dad and use my anger in a constructive and caring way.
Dad lesson#4
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Sunday, June 12, 2011 at 9:53am
Exodus 20:8 "Remember the Sabbath and keep it holy."
Sunday mornings at the Fair house was different than any other day of the week. Different because we couldn't listen to anything that was not Christian. Which meant no tv or radio before worship. Well, we usually did have music playing: The Mitchell's, The Gaither's, etc... But, in the 80's the worship music really wasn't geared to kids so Kim & I didn't really like this rule. We wanted to listen to Michael Jackson, Wham or Alabama (Kim's fave). The hours before worship almost seemed like torture. Now 20 years later, I am still following my parents rule. On Sundays mornings, I grab my Nook sign onto Pandora and listen to my Christian playlist. I can only assume that if I was being raised in this generation that FB would not be allowed on Sunday mornings...so Mom & Dad sorry I broke the rules today. I am so thankful you enforced this rule because today I love Christian music and not only listen to it on Sunday mornings but in my van and many other times because you instilled in me the need to worship my Savior daily through song.
Dad Lesson#5
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Monday, June 13, 2011 at 6:13pm
When I was a sophomore in high school, we had to move. At the time I thought it was the end of the world. My Dad tried out at many churches but chose a part time church in Boonville, IN. It was only an hour from my friends. I am sure there were several reasons my Dad chose that church and one of those reasons was to try to make the move easier for me. I would be closer to the place I considered home. So since the church was only part time, Dad had to work 2 jobs and at one point 3 jobs. If he would have taken say a church in North Carolina that was fulltime he wouldn't have had to work so much. So through this I learned how a parent sacrifices for a child. He worked so hard to try to keep me happy. I also learned another lesson during this time in my life. I learned
that I asked my dad to sacrifice way too much for me. Just maybe by working 3 jobs he gave me time closer to friends but I missed a lot of time with him because he was always at work. I realize now it would have been hard to leave my friends but spending time with family is more important. So sacrificing for your family is an honorable thing but we need to be sure we aren't sacrificing our family when we are sacrificing for them.
Dad Lesson #6
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Tuesday, June 14, 2011 at 9:41pm
One thing for sure is everyone is different. My sister and I are pretty much opposites. We have a few similarities but not many. Neither is better than the other just different. My dad and mom too realized that we were different and because of our differences we were at times treated differently. However, we were always loved equally. My girls are pretty much opposites too. Kendra will still cuddle up in the couch with me while Karlee prefers to keep a little distance. Karlee can take a joke easier than Kendra most of the time etc... As children grow we learn how they need to be loved. But one thing I have learned from my parents is to love my children differently but equally.
Dad Lesson #7
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Wednesday, June 15, 2011 at 11:23pm
This lesson is one that I fear many people are forgetting. My dad taught me to respect my elders or anyone in authority. I observe the new generations and do not see that they are taught to respect others. They are only concerned with helping themselves and if that means being disrespectful then so be it. We were taught to always say "Please and Thank you" and call those older than us by "Mr. and Mrs." We would never dream of rudely speaking to a parent of a friend or any adult.
Now days we hear of grandchildren taking advantage of their grandparents and see the elderly pushed aside. I feel it is a shame that kids are not taught to respect others. I am thankful I was and hopefully my kids have learned a little of that too.
Dad lesson #8
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Thursday, June 16, 2011 at 10:58pm
Proverbs 1:7 "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.”
My Dad has taught us the importance of education. Dad would love to be a fulltime college student. Matter of fact, he received his Master's degree in 2002 and then he earned his Doctorate in 2004 at the age of 59. He studies his Bible daily continually seeking God's guidance. This teaches us that there is more to learning than sitting at a desk in a classroom but we should seek God's knowledge daily on our own.
Final Dad Lesson for now
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Saturday, June 18, 2011 at 1:48pm
I have many more lessons I could share but I will finish with the most important. My Dad taught me that Jesus is the Christ the Son of the Living God. He taught me that Jesus is my Redeemer, my He is Lord of lords, King of kings, Mighty God. He is the great I AM, Prince of peace, my Saving Grace, the Alpha and Omega, Messiah and He is my friend. My earthly Father taught me to love my Heavenly Father and that Jesus loves ME. This is the best lesson we can teach our children.
Happy Birthday, Daddy! I didn’t buy you a present you can unwrap but this week between your birthday and Father's Day I will be posting some lessons I have learned from you. So stay posted to my posts to see that I did listen and learn from you all these years. Thank you for being a godly humble and wise example for all of us. I love and miss you!
Dad Lesson #1
My Dad taught me that with God all things are possible! When Karlee was in NICU and I couldn't even go in and see her out of fear of getting too attached it was my Dad who sat by her side and sang "You are my Sunshine" to her for hours and prayed that she would breathe on her on. My Dad never doubted that our God wouldn't "take his sunshine away" Thanks to Dad I have the confidence that with God ALL things are possible.
Dad Lesson #2
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Friday, June 10, 2011 at 10:11am
Proverbs 10:19 "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise"
My Dad is a man of few words. I remember when my Dad was an Elder at FCCN, one of the other elders said "Gary doesn't say much in the meetings but everyone there knows when he does speak up it will be worth listening to, wise and godly."
Unfortunately, this is a lesson that I am still learning. I often speak too many words inviting sin into my conversations. I am striving to speak only wise and godly words...maybe you struggle with this too.
Have a great Friday FB!
Dad Lesson #3
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Saturday, June 11, 2011 at 12:30pm
James 1:19-20
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. For man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.
I know this will be hard to believe but I have only experienced my Dad's anger once in my life. I am sure he has been angry many times in life but he does not let his anger consume him or let it show to others. My Dad is not a yeller. He never yelled at Kim or me, that I can only assume he delegated to Mom because she yelled quite well. LOL All Dad had to do was look at us and we were broken. We would start to cry and confess all our wrong doings.
The one time I remember seeing my Dad angry was the day of my high school graduation. For the record, he was not angry at me. Lol He was actually sticking up for me. I learned a lot that day. I learned my dad is human. He has a breaking point and it was reached that day. I learned he loved me enough to get angry about the situation. I learned it is ok to get angry. Also I learned to state your anger and let it go. Dad did not hold on to his anger. Once it was out, he let it go. He did not harbor resentment or harsh feelings with any one involved.
I pray that I can learn to be slow to become angry like my Dad and use my anger in a constructive and caring way.
Dad lesson#4
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Sunday, June 12, 2011 at 9:53am
Exodus 20:8 "Remember the Sabbath and keep it holy."
Sunday mornings at the Fair house was different than any other day of the week. Different because we couldn't listen to anything that was not Christian. Which meant no tv or radio before worship. Well, we usually did have music playing: The Mitchell's, The Gaither's, etc... But, in the 80's the worship music really wasn't geared to kids so Kim & I didn't really like this rule. We wanted to listen to Michael Jackson, Wham or Alabama (Kim's fave). The hours before worship almost seemed like torture. Now 20 years later, I am still following my parents rule. On Sundays mornings, I grab my Nook sign onto Pandora and listen to my Christian playlist. I can only assume that if I was being raised in this generation that FB would not be allowed on Sunday mornings...so Mom & Dad sorry I broke the rules today. I am so thankful you enforced this rule because today I love Christian music and not only listen to it on Sunday mornings but in my van and many other times because you instilled in me the need to worship my Savior daily through song.
Dad Lesson#5
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Monday, June 13, 2011 at 6:13pm
When I was a sophomore in high school, we had to move. At the time I thought it was the end of the world. My Dad tried out at many churches but chose a part time church in Boonville, IN. It was only an hour from my friends. I am sure there were several reasons my Dad chose that church and one of those reasons was to try to make the move easier for me. I would be closer to the place I considered home. So since the church was only part time, Dad had to work 2 jobs and at one point 3 jobs. If he would have taken say a church in North Carolina that was fulltime he wouldn't have had to work so much. So through this I learned how a parent sacrifices for a child. He worked so hard to try to keep me happy. I also learned another lesson during this time in my life. I learned
that I asked my dad to sacrifice way too much for me. Just maybe by working 3 jobs he gave me time closer to friends but I missed a lot of time with him because he was always at work. I realize now it would have been hard to leave my friends but spending time with family is more important. So sacrificing for your family is an honorable thing but we need to be sure we aren't sacrificing our family when we are sacrificing for them.
Dad Lesson #6
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Tuesday, June 14, 2011 at 9:41pm
One thing for sure is everyone is different. My sister and I are pretty much opposites. We have a few similarities but not many. Neither is better than the other just different. My dad and mom too realized that we were different and because of our differences we were at times treated differently. However, we were always loved equally. My girls are pretty much opposites too. Kendra will still cuddle up in the couch with me while Karlee prefers to keep a little distance. Karlee can take a joke easier than Kendra most of the time etc... As children grow we learn how they need to be loved. But one thing I have learned from my parents is to love my children differently but equally.
Dad Lesson #7
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Wednesday, June 15, 2011 at 11:23pm
This lesson is one that I fear many people are forgetting. My dad taught me to respect my elders or anyone in authority. I observe the new generations and do not see that they are taught to respect others. They are only concerned with helping themselves and if that means being disrespectful then so be it. We were taught to always say "Please and Thank you" and call those older than us by "Mr. and Mrs." We would never dream of rudely speaking to a parent of a friend or any adult.
Now days we hear of grandchildren taking advantage of their grandparents and see the elderly pushed aside. I feel it is a shame that kids are not taught to respect others. I am thankful I was and hopefully my kids have learned a little of that too.
Dad lesson #8
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Thursday, June 16, 2011 at 10:58pm
Proverbs 1:7 "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.”
My Dad has taught us the importance of education. Dad would love to be a fulltime college student. Matter of fact, he received his Master's degree in 2002 and then he earned his Doctorate in 2004 at the age of 59. He studies his Bible daily continually seeking God's guidance. This teaches us that there is more to learning than sitting at a desk in a classroom but we should seek God's knowledge daily on our own.
Final Dad Lesson for now
by Kassie Fair Sanders on Saturday, June 18, 2011 at 1:48pm
I have many more lessons I could share but I will finish with the most important. My Dad taught me that Jesus is the Christ the Son of the Living God. He taught me that Jesus is my Redeemer, my He is Lord of lords, King of kings, Mighty God. He is the great I AM, Prince of peace, my Saving Grace, the Alpha and Omega, Messiah and He is my friend. My earthly Father taught me to love my Heavenly Father and that Jesus loves ME. This is the best lesson we can teach our children.
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